These were my favorite quotes from the book “Communication Course” by Frederick Dodson

“it is about the people inhabiting it and the energy they exchange.”

“but if you’re alone all the time, none of it is fun. Your state improves in proportion to how many meaningful connections you have to others. The state of the world improves when we become better communicators.”

“This misconception comes from the currently dominant, sophomoric worldview that a human being “is a brain and a body” rather than consciousness equipped with soul and an energy-field.”

“Beyond the age of 40 you also start seeing a persons’ lifestyle in their faces.”

“So how can you make that personal energy field brighter and stronger? Through kindness.”

“whereas kindness attracts some real blessings. Goodwill is the basis of effective Communication. Problems should be tackled immediately before they build a nest in your aura.”

“As long as you try to escape them they will keep coming back in a new guise, so solve everything in consciousness first and instantly. Also, cutting your connections to any associations, organizations and people that foster too much negativity will brighten your light.”

“Once you have gone beyond seeking love and approval and start giving it is when your start to shine.”

“With a strong and bright aura is that you no longer have to protect yourself from negativity. Protection is only required at mid-levels of energy, not at the higher ones. Where there is no fear (coldness) but only love (warmth) there is no more danger because no real harm can happen. As you realize you are an energy-field and not a body, you start feeling invincible…not physically invincible, but invincible as that which you really are.”

“Being is even more important than Doing. When you are visiting with people or standing in a cue or when you are sitting at home or driving a car you can realize that what you are being is more important than what you are doing. Instead of asking yourself “Am I saying the right thing?”, first check what you are Being. Instead of asking yourself “What are we going to do?” adjust who-you-are-going-to-be.”

“Here’s a secret that will change your life: Rather than being concerned with how people see you, be concerned for their well-being. That will shift your aura radically and your presence will fill the whole plane, train, room.”

“Knowing for certain that your state is transferred to everyone around you and anyone you are holding in mind, has you feel more responsible. Your emotions are not as private as you think they are.”

“When I am in a bad mood, my seminars are lacking, even if I do the best to hide it. If I am in a good mood, my seminars skyrocket, no matter what I say or do.”

“So a good mix of releasing your own inner darkness and not spending too much time in harsh environments are more than enough protection. One day you reach a state where no protection is required and then the purpose of your presence is to sooth those around you.”

“I have found that if you love the grieving person you are hugging, there will be no loss of energy. Love really does make you immune.”

“If you live your life by the motto “Love All, Serve All”, you can handshake and hug anyone without energy loss and every connection you make will be an energy-gain for both sides.”

“Any act of kindness and forgiveness makes you instantly immune to bad energy.”

“So the best thing would be to notice your automatic inner reaction, but not to act on it. To stay seated with the person instead of going away and to stay calm instead of attacking back. You would first of all acknowledge the critic and take some time to breathe. Then you may or may not respond, but if you do respond it comes out much stronger and not all frozen up. What happens? You come out of the conversation feeling better instead of energy-depleted. All of life is a game of energy and if you want, you have full control of your reactions and choices.”

“If you are a member of some group you begin assimilating the mentality, attitude and behavior of that group subconsciously…even if you don’t pay attention to what is being said.”

“A person with expressive eyes is perceived as being more lively and trustworthy.”

“So if eye-contact is so positive, then why do some cultures avoid it and consider it impolite? If you have ever read a book on “Intercultural Behavior” you will have learned that each culture has different amounts of “closeness” (=energy exchange) that are deemed appropriate. Russians seem to like to hug and kiss complete strangers while the Japanese won’t touch and look. If you look carefully at how Europeans greet vs. how Americans greet you will see that Europeans often, subconsciously, tend to move toward the other or slightly bow their heads or nod, whereas Americans will often stand straight, not moving in the others direction while shaking hands. This subtle difference makes Europeans appear slightly more polite. On the other hand, Americans will smile more often than Europeans which makes Europeans appear slightly cold.”

“Crave nothing, resist nothing, state your true intentions without equivocation and externalize your attention and allow yourself to flow a state of gentle Humor.”

“The very instant you crave something from another person, you are no longer entirely free, calm and clear.”

“But if I need nothing from them and do not need them to say or do anything in particular, that means you take and accept them exactly as they are right now. That not only allows you to feel at ease, but helps them feel comfortable too and I can tell them the truth of anything.”

“But if I need nothing from them and do not need them to say or do anything in particular, that means you take and accept them exactly as they are right now. That not only allows you to feel at ease, but helps them feel comfortable too and I can tell them the truth of anything.”

“If the above statement is too long for you to remember, you could reduce it down to this short-code: “You don’t have to be anything, just BE”.”

“How to know when you are not being authentic? When you are nervous. Your true self is never ill at ease. Only the Illusory-self is ill at ease.”

“Positive shamelessness is a whole different ballgame. It’s the conscious detecting, feeling and releasing of shame-emotions, leading to freedom from mental slavery, the reduction of excessive self-censorship, the letting go of “what do others think of me?”-fear. It is a fundamental component of successful and free living.”

“As children we asked “Who should I be and what should I do so that I am liked?” Changing our true heart to conform to others’ expectations was a matter of survival. Then, in adulthood, we either carry that inauthentic and non-self-expressive self on, or we rebel against it by becoming “bad girl” and “bad boy” identities.”

“This is an interesting exercise to learn about who-you-really-are vs. who-you-try-to-be-to-fit-in.”

“but those little moments of authentic boundary-setting are invaluable tools for inner growth.”

“Hidden resentment silently eats away at so many relationships. Subconscious resentment builds when you say “Yes” when you really want to say “No”. Saying “yes” when you mean otherwise, leaves the other person confused because mixed signals are being transported there.”

“You might feel unwell about being clear but it’s very much worth it to remain steadfast and to release those feelings of guilt. You do not have to apologize for being who you are and you do not have to be someone different than you are just to please others.”

“The “taking” part was what was missing in the equation. She then learned that she had a sense of shame about taking. Once that was overcome, her giving became more authentic. She then gave not to appease but out of joy. Soon her debts were paid off and she was back in Business.”

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