The importance of routines

Ed Coan is widely regarded as the greatest powerlifter of all time.

“I love my routine and when nothing upsets my routine. My dad used to tell me, I know never to die and have my wake or funeral on a lifting day, because I know you won’t be there.”

Gotta love the consistency and dedication! Habits and routine are the most common practices I see amongst the worlds fittest in any sport or even in business.

His story is similar what I see in a lot of people. Because of something that happened during his younger years in his case he was 4, 11 and 98 lbs freshmen year of high school. He discovered weight lifting and fell in love with it.

Similiar to Ed’s story, I was told that I should leave sales and do something else. I pushed myself to become a better sales professional every day.  I was also voted most reserved in the yearbook once so I made it a challenge so that’s why now I have over 10,000+ Linkedin connections and put myself out there as much as humanly possible.

(P.314) “I’m going to get better, and this is what I have to do to get better.These are my weaknesses; let me correct my weaknesses.”

There is magic in documenting your journey to see the progress throughout time.

He discusses the big picture. A lot of people still cannot see the big picture. If there is no end vision. You run the risk of waking up one day and having a midlife crisis.

“I see this a lot with powerlifters Mark and Stan Efferding. They don’t let anybody or anything get to them. It’s like water off a duck’s back.”

He was talking about disrupting your normal cycle. Treat people nicely because it’s easier to blame everyone else but maybe it’s your own attitude that needs to change not other people.

He talks about breaking down longer-term goals to smaller more doable and easy to obtain goals. That way you don’t fear it is much when its something that can be broken down into small daily tasks.

“I can look at it and realize that’s it’s not so scary.”

“I’ve never heard my mom and dad badmouth anybody. The picture makes me think about how I should treat everyone I love.” (p.319) “They love life, they love their kids and grandkids, and it keeps them going.”

 

 

 

 

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p.304 in Tribe of Mentors “It is essential to identify the root cause of that lost focus- am I just having a bad day, or is the task itself something I simply hate doing? If it’s clearly the former, and time pressures allow, I’m a big fan of just packing it in and doing something more fun until my focus comes back, even if it’s not until the next day.

If it’s the latter, it’s probably relevant to investigate why I’m feeling so unmotivated. Given that I know the upsides of getting it done, feeling so icky about it might mean there’s more going on than I’d fully considered. It then helps to list those reasons to see if I can find a new way of getting the task done, avoiding the crappy parts entirely. If that’s not possible, I can see now at least do a more effective cost-benefit analysis and decide whether to continue at all. If I decide the payoff is still worth it, then motivation will be more likely to come back by itself.” – Liv Boeree (top-ranked WSOP player)

P. 307 with Annie Mist Porisdottier (fittest woman alive title) “I’ve tried to stop worrying too much about the future. I focus on making the most out of every single day with the belief that it will bring me to where I want to be.”

“Anger is often what pain looks like when it shows itself in public.” -Krista Tippett

Mark Bell on page310 in Tribe of Mentor says “Either you’re in, or you’re in the way. Often, we chase after people who aren’t in who, for whatever reason, don’t fit into our lives or our business. We waste time with these people when our focus should be on the people are in.

Part of knowing who you are is knowing who you’re not.”

This resonated with me really heavily. I have spent close to 30 years trying to figure who I am and my strengths and weaknesses. Decisions are much easier when you know who you are and you are not.

I write down my goals on the bathroom mirror. I’ve done it with my target body weight, to how much I want to bench, etc. By writing it down every single day, it turns those dreams into obtainable goals.”

“Things to ignore, what other people or businesses are doing. When you’re not looking at what’s in front of you, you could have a very tragic misstep. That’s why racehorses have blinders on. If they look to the left or right, not only will they end up hurt, but everyone else will, too.”

You should always focus on yourself first. That is the only thing you can control. There is so much wasted energy worrying about what everyone else is doing. Who cares? Just focus on yourself and be laser focus and you will be able to accomplish your goals much more quickly.

 

 

 

Interesting Tony Hawk quotes

P.299 in Tribe of mentors. “To not to keep myself so busy that I miss out on the small, yet hugely important, moments with my family. To stay present and make myself available to my loved ones instead of chasing every business opportunity and keeping myself constantly distracted with work, skating, or travel. Having true intimacy with my wife and kids is a relatively new concept for me, but it has provided a more meaningful life than ever before.”

“Success should not be measured by financial gain; true success is doing something for love for a living. Learn every aspect of your chosen field or craft, as it will give you an advantage over any competitors, and set you up for more- often better job opportunities.”

 

Some more amazing Tim Ferriss Life lesson quotes from his guests (Tribe of Mentors)

p.175 “Every smart person and stable person I know both walks and meditates. The app Headspace is a fun way to start. Try and do it every day. But I suggest not doing it while you are walking… for now.” – Jimmy Fallon

Life is but a delicate balance. It’s all about being able to move because your body needs it but also the peace that comes with self-discovery and self-actualization.

This simple quote from Jimmy explains the last 6 months for me. I started using Headspace a little bit over a year ago and there has been so much that has changed. I started trusting myself more and learning more about my greatness.

The journey has been a rocky one but giving my mind a break from the billions of books and podcasts has actually given me a lot of reflection space to think about everything I have created for myself this year.

He interviewed Annie Duke who is one of top poker players in the world.

“Challenge yourself to truly listen to people who have differing ideas and opinions than you do.”

“Poker has taught me to disconnect failure from outcomes. Just because I lose doesn’t mean I failed, and just because I won doesn’t mean I succeeded-not when you define success and failure around making good decisions that will win in the long run.What matters is the decisions I made along the way, and every decision failure is an opportunity to learn and adjust my strategy going forward. By doing this, losing becomes a less emotional experience and more an opportunity to explore and learn.” (p.174)

This is so true, its okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Doing the right thing is always the best way to go because things eventually normalize. People can get lucky once or twice but typically things usually end up resorting to the mean.

What I have learned from picking the brains of the leadership team at Cheetah Digital

I started this interesting project and learned so much from just asking a simple question, If you can boil down what has made you successful in 5 simple concepts what is it?

I have noticed that people often were just being authentic and trying to find themselves. After you realize your strengths really capitalizing on that to grab opportunities.

Not in any particular order, these were some of the answers I have received.

  • Tenacity/work ethic
  • Lack of ego
  • True partnership
  • Empathy
  • Finding the balance between holding your own but still knowing when to compromise
  • Active listening and implementing feedback
  • Preparation/having a plan
  • Having fun in the process
  • Accountability
  • Purpose
  • Likeability
  • Mission focused
  • Getting shit done!
  • Earning trust
  • Big on self-improvement

 

These are some of the common answers from the top Enterprise sales reps in our Org.

  • Asking well-researched questions
  • Be passionate and excited about our mission
  • Be a team player
  • Going above and beyond what is asked of you
  • Building relationships and then maintaining them
  • Be inquisitive
  • Self actualization
  • Seek mentorship and learn from them
  • Have extremely high hiring standards
  • Just enjoy the little moments in life

I hope you guys got something from this. I know I did. Thank you to everyone who participated. I really got that there is not just one path to success. The quicker you reach self-actualization, the more seamless things will be for you.

Success takes patience, work at times and the ability to implement feedback from leadership but still have your own flair to things.

Thanks for listening. I hope everyone has a happy Holiday season!

What I have gotten so far out of starting my own podcasts

  1. Don’t be afraid of putting yourself out there. I used to think that there are so many differences between people out there but the more I put myself out there the more I realized people will still love you no matter what happens if you succeed or “fail”.
  2. The power of having a community and a strong support system. I am extremely blessed to have cross paves with some of the most amazing people in the world. I underestimated how important it is to have a support structure that will help you stay grounded but will still push you past what you thought were your limits.
  3. Just being yourself and finding authenticity. Being genuine and authentic is one of those things I used to say to myself, What does that even mean? Having a life coach and being immersed in the world really has caused me to reflect and look at what I really care about in life. I have figured out my 3 highest commitments is 1. Leading by example in making a priority my mental and physical well being. Often at times we always love to serve others but at what cost. You have to put on your airplane mask before you can help out others. I am sure many can relate. 2. Modeling love and being of service to the world, which basically means add value everywhere I go. For me, it’s being a connector and being a dream builder supporting all those around me. 3. Lastly, create a family and community around me to help others build their dreams and just be a consistent source of energy and inspiration so that others can accomplish their dreams as well.
  4. You know a lot more than you think you do. I used to think that age equates to wisdom but there is wisdom in everything and everyone. There is so much power and people tend to underestimate what they know.
  5. Learning how to deal with rejection. When you explore uncomfortable things, there is always going to be others who will criticize you and what you are doing or say something that will rub you the wrong way. Don’t take it personally. Hurt people hurt. You never really know what someone is going through. It could be a nasty divorce or they found out their loved one has cancer. Sometimes, we take it out on someone else or blame someone else but there is power in knowing that you have a choice on how you react.
  6. The power of being responsible for your actions. All of your actions have consequences. Everything you did with your life led you to right now. Although it is easier to blame everyone else. The reality is that you have the ability to create change, people often blame everyone and everything else but you have the ability to create your life the way you want it to be. If you are not happy with what is going on right now, then create an action plan and have accountability partners to help support you. With the power of the internet, you have more resources than you really think.
  7. Perfection is not always the best strategy. There is no such thing as perfection. I know people that are consistently planning mode for 99% of their lives. They end up never producing content. Sure, you should plan but the execution is the key to success. Gary Vee always says content is king.
  8. Have mentorship, I have spoken to many people who have produced podcasts before and was able to get some help. It’s good to have someone who has done it before so that you can skip a lot of the failures yourself. However for some people, its the only way to learn is be doing and reflecting.
  9. Being consistent, of course, there are days that one would rather Netflix but if you are truly committed to a goal. You will set up systems and structures to build on consistency.
  10. Ask and do not be afraid to be bold. I used to be afraid and think famous people would not have the time to reply back to me. I have taken on a practice of doing one thing that scares me every day. After looking back, I can reflect and be proud that if I was to pass away tomorrow. I would be happy with how I lived my life so far.

Happy Tuesday all! Thanks for listening.

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Reddit Sales/Business Development and Career Progressions Podcast- Episode 10 with Chris Stocker

This a different one than most of the others. I have with me Chris Stocker from Edgen Murray who does Business Development in the East territory in Industrial sales(Natural gas and power).

I have learned so many things from interviewing him. We discussed how to be a true partner, how to build rapport, and how to provide value in every interaction across the board. The importance of Sandler training and how an MBA in data analytics can be applied in business development.

I had a lot of fun. I hope you guys enjoy it as well. Let me know what your thoughts and which type of sales you guys want next on the podcast.

If you guys want to follow him, check out his Linkedin below. https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-stocker-mba-674bab11/

If you guys want to stream it. https://fccdl.in/2tQYnOy4P

If you all want to see all of the other podcast episodes. https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B9NBrI6ZwmMvUFhDU1pielp4Mk0