Building communities is something that ENFPs really thrive at. The combination of extraversion is getting people and gaining energy. ENFPs are also great hype man- I always know how to get people excited about everything that I am doing. Whether it’s getting people to join a club or bringing people together for a monthly happy hour, I always enjoyed meeting new people.
Because we had a tendency of liking to meet new people, I have to be extremely intentional about planning to build deeper relationships. Meeting new people is great, but practicing those muscles of continually building on your relationships will give you fulfillment.
Missing weddings because we are invited. Too popular.
Caring too much- Martyrdom. It can be exhausting. Righteousness.
For me, some of the most challenging aspects of being an ENFP are the career hopping and switching from one job to the next. Because I like the challenge of winning someone over or from a career standpoint winning another company over I tend to get bored quickly if I am not 100% stimulated at my job. It allowed me to have a beautiful career that I never dreamed possible honestly but it’s also caused a lot of stress and worry in my life. Especially if people label you as a job hopper. Now, I’ve learned that these pivotal moments have all made sense but while it’s hard not to become affected by other people’s comments. Starting your own business is always an option, so in my case, I have a lot of ventures and projects that I’ve started on my own of course in partnership with other people.
The constant need for validation and I could remember five different memories that have greatly shaped who I am today and what I want to be for the world.
When I was living in California and I was forced to move back to New Jersey I remember being really sad that I had to leave my close friends. Anytime I find myself getting closer to people whether its co-workers or friends I have a self-sabotaging habit of moving away. When I worked at a company called BountyJobs, I remember winning the employee of the month award which was one of my proudest moments achievements, and then somehow I wanted to move back to South Jersey to work for a recruiting company. That absolutely made no sense. Sometimes our weirdest decisions end up working out because during that time, I realize that I need to have a lot of simulation. All of this moving and then eventually working in Philadelphia was a good experience for me. I try not to have any regrets in life because those were some of the most challenging moments in my life working and living in South Jersey. I realized I tried to escape whatever life I had always, and moving around, I realized that I was trying to escape myself and being alone was tough for me.
Working I was living in Connecticut with random people I didn’t know that was extremely challenging for me. It was so cool, and it was snowing like crazy. My coworkers are older and have families and it was tough because after work when I went back home, I was so bored I became depressed. The depression served me well long term because I realized I would drink beers and use alcohol to numb my pain. The number of drugs and alcohol and distractions I used not to have to deal with feelings and emotions was quite often.
My relationship with drugs is also a scary one. I was not over the top where I almost died, but I do remember feeling afraid that others would judge me and society typically says no to drugs. I can see why because any dependence on anything is bad, and there is a possibility with most drugs that you can get so addicted that it can consume you. Having perspective now, I see that I was judging myself based on societal norms and how others will perceive me. I’m grateful to used drugs as an emotional amplifier, and it’s helped me experience life 10x more vividly. I think with anyone doing your research it affects anyone differently, but I can remember all of the crazy thoughts I’ve had on acid and shrooms. Those decisions have made me overall much more compassionate to the world and have the ability to feel so connected to the universe. I forever lost my ego, and there are times where I think that we are one. In society, we look to people like they are separate from us and that couldn’t be further from the truth. The beautiful thing about being an ENFP is that because we all feel so connected to life. When times get tough they get adamant and it’s hard to separate yourself from the rollercoaster that is life. When life is great! It’s incredible, there is no one else that can describe life so vividly.
Taking it on other people’s energy quickly.
Highly sensitive people. I don’t want to be around certain people.
The messiness of confrontation. ex:Abrasive.
Energetic boundaries. Communicative boundaries. Who I want to coach?
Davidson Hang is currently in Sales at Cheetah Digital which is a Marketing technology company located in NYC.
Davidson is an avid networker, personal growth- life and business coach.
He loves spreading the love and regularly helps people create and design the life they want for themselves.