“When I feel stuck, sometimes accomplishing a task, however mundane, gives me the Momentum I need to refocus. Either that, or I’ll work up a sweat, preferably in the form of a trail run. Nature and endorphins are always the answer.” (p.130) Tribe of Mentors
“If you are struggling to figure out where you are headed in life or what you are passionate about, pay attention to activities, ideas, and areas where you love the process, not just the results or the outcome. We are drawn to tasks where we can receive validation through results, but I’ve learned that true fulfillment comes from love of the process. Look for something where you love the process, and the results will follow.”
“I’m risk- averse by nature, and in the last five years, I’ve learned how to run toward fear, instead of running away from it. My nature has always been to take the straight and narrow path, to take the path with fewer unknowns. But by forcing myself to face the unknown and embrace the uncomfortable, I’ve found that I actually thrive in it. So I know take fear and discomfort as a sign that I should be doing something. That’s where magic happens.”
This really resonates with me. She is literally one of the fittest people in the world competing in ultra marathons and just being someone who is truly inspirational.
I can relate when I wash the dishes or make the bed just simple things. I feel product which keeps my flow state going when I accomplishing task after task.
Nature grounds me and keeps me in my happy place. I definitely think there is something about nature that we humans gravitate towards. That’s why masterpieces like lakes, mountains, volcanos, and the grand canyon are examples where people feel a sense of being one with nature.
Embracing discomfort and pain is a skill that is extremely useful. In life, there is only one constant and that is change. If you adapt and are able to change by rolling with the punches. That is something will help you succeed because so many aspects of life are unpredictable. Just ask anyone that tries to time the market.
Sometimes I find it hard to explain to people what life coaching is because there is so much that we do that I often get tongue-tied thinking of just one way to describe it. After reading this in Tim Ferriss’s Tribe of Mentors. I felt like I had to share it the world.
“If I accept you as you are, I make you worse, however if I treat you as though you are capable of becoming I help you become that.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
In my practice, when I see clients for the first time, I see them as the end product- the way they will be in the future. They are all beautiful. What stands between who they are and who they want to be is their willingness to change strong habits, belief systems, and the gracefulness to embrace a new way of living. I aid them in their pursuit of change and liberation from unwanted habits.
My best investment was spending money on mentors and personal education. I’ve spent time and energy to learn how to effectively help every person who walks through my door.
My best investments to date were when I worked on my personal development such as mediation, this coaching/leadership development program and worked on my well being. Filling the cup is so important in life.
Being of service is great but when the airplane comes crashing down you need to be able to put on your masks first before helping others put on their masks.
I hope everyone had some rest this extended Holiday weekend! Cheers to everyone out there pushing themselves and conquering their fears to reach their dreams. If you aren’t, give me a call 😛
Naval Ravikant- founder of Angelist.
“Happiness is a choice you make and a skill you develop. The mind is just as malleable as the body. We spend so much time and effort trying to change the external world, other people, and our own bodies, all while accepting ourselves the way we were programmed in our youths. We accept the voice that talks to us in our head all the time as the source of all truth. But all of it is malleable, every day is new and memory and identity are burdens from the past and prevent us from living freely in the present. ” (p.33)
“Every book I read that wasn’t assigned to me or that I didn’t read with a purpose in mind. The genuine love for reading itself, when cultivated, is a superpower. We live in the age of Alexandria, when every book and every piece of knowledge ever written down is a fingertip away. The means of learning are abundant- it’s the desire to learn that’s scarce. Cultivate that desire by reading what you want, not what you’re supposed to.” (p.33)
“Suffering is a moment of clarity, when you can no longer deny the truth of a situation and are forced into uncomfortable change. I’m lucky that I didn’t get everything I wanted in life, or I’d be happy with my first good job, my college sweetheart, my college town. Being poor when young led to making money when old. Losing faith in my bosses and elders made me independent and an adult. Almost getting into the wrong marriage helped me recognize and enter the right one. Falling sick made me focus on my health. It goes on and on. Inside suffering is the seed of change. (p.32)
“Work hard to beat the competition” The truth is that competition is the opposite of creativity. If I am working hard to beat the competition, it actually prevents me from thinking creatively to make all concepts of competition obsolete.
This competitive mindset destroys people. It’s the scorched-earth way of thinking, and everyone is burned.
The truth is that you need success of everyone in your field in order to achieve your own success. Creativity operates differently. You work hard because you’re inspired to, not because you have to. Work becomes fun, and you have energy for days.
When you’re creative, you can, in fact, cheer others on with the full knowledge that their success will undoubtedly be your own.” (p.23)
“In order to have you must do, and in order to do you must be.” (p.19)
Create win-win situations always.
“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things I have gone. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.” – Steve Jobs.
“What you seek is seeking you.”- Rumi
“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.” -Oscar Wilde
Everything happens for a reason, even if you cannot see it right now at this very moment.
Samin Nosrat- “I have so many spectacular failures, but looking back, I can see how each of them led me a little closer to doing what I actually wanted to do.” (p.2)
- I am going to answer these 11 question before I read the book and will see if my answers will change after I finish it.What is the book or books you’ve given the most as a gift, and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influenced your life?How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie, It is a book that can apply to anyone and everyone. Basically how to interact with humans.Money Master the game by Tony Robbins
A lot of actionable tips and advice. That is very practical.
Think and Grow Rich. It’s a classic and its fun and easy read. There are a lot of useful content that can help you achieve your goals.
The 3 books that I really enjoyed that changed a lot of my mindset were 1. Shoe Dog by Phil Knight. It really made me understand that we are all the same even billionaires have the same sort of thoughts and insecurities we do. The importance and power of storytelling.
2. Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow: Yuval Noah Harari. It really does a great job of incorporating everything from philosophy, spirituality, psychology, the data religion and talks about the future.
3. The First Tycoon: The Epic Life of Cornelius Vanderbilt by T.J. Stiles. It really made me think about work ethic and understanding markets and the need for thinking about the consumers and how to support whatever the trend was at the moment.
2. What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months( or in recent memory)? My readers love specifics like brand and model, where you found it, etc.
For me, I would say books have the best ROI. There are so many takeaways from reading biographies of the greats like Benjamin Franklin and Alex Hamilton. It really does put things in perspective about how young of a country we really are in the grand scheme of things and the importance of reading and the growth mindset/student mentality to becomes successful.
3. How has a failure or apparent failure, set you up for later success? Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?
I would say my favorite failure was my asthma. Growing from being super unathletic to being really into fitness and health. It’s helped me push outside my comfort zone to work on my goals to build a strong foundation and have more muscle memory for things that would be challenging to others because of repetition and grit.
4. If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it- metaphorically speaking, getting a message out to millions or billions- what would it say and why? It could a few words or a paragraph.
If I can communicate with the world. I would say Be present, Be true to yourself. Take on a mindfulness practice. Forgiveness is the way to go and have you made a difference today? Being of service will bring you more happiness than focusing on one’s ego.
5. What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you’ve ever made?
The accomplishment coaching program has been extremely valuable to me. Being able to have more self-awareness and being able to coach others is such a valuable skill set that translates to all areas of life. I am so grateful for the opportunity to impact millions of lives potentially.
6. What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?
I still love calling people up on the phone. In today’s world, everyone would rather text message even if it’s a short message. I feel as if though we are losing our personal touch when we mass send times without personalization. It’s making us more distant ironically even though we are technically connected to more people than ever.
7. In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?
Reflection, journaling, and meditation are related. A practice that you are getting elevation and thinking about your goals and how you are feeling to see if you disrupt the pattern.
8. What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the “real world”? What advice should they ignore?
I would say having mentors that have done what you are looking to do will help you take a faster route to your goals. Networking is important for anyone that is in business.
I would say they should ignore the going straight into grad school is what you should do. I think getting some experience first will help you with more practical real-world knowledge to bring to your case studies if you are thinking about getting an MBA or masters. You would be able to relate and contribute more to your classmates.
9. What are bad recommendations you hear in the profession or area of expertise?
Bad sales advice is to smile and dial. Working smarter is better than working harder if I could pick one. Being efficient is better than working hard but not being mindful of what you are doing.
10. In the last five years, what have you become better at saying no to? What new realizations and/or approaches helped? Any other tips?
Being able to say no to things that do not fit into your vision. It’s perfectly fine to say No. Just saying no more often makes it easier to say it the next time.
11. When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, or have you lost your focus temporarily what do you do?
What questions do you ask yourself?
Journaling, reflection, taking a walk or being out in nature. Hiking helps a lot.
Do you have to be right all of the time? What does that give you? Why do you care so much? Is this serving you to be mad or angry?
What are yours? I would love to say what you guys have to say about these same questions.