This past weekend was fantastic because I gave myself the gift of having a relaxing birthday. My usual self would have tried to get so many people together, and don’t get me wrong, I enjoy those crazy, fun birthdays. It was nice just to spend quality time with my wife. She enjoyed it thoroughly.
We went to a Hot Air Balloon Festival, and she bought me this lovely Aesop Shampoo, Conditioner, Body Wash, and Facial Wash that smells good.
We also went to Agricola, which is where we had our wedding. So much of my life I’ve taken my wife for granted and she’s been the best thing that’s ever happened in my life. She constantly pours love into our relationship, and I have noticed that I’m being hard on myself as well. I can now give myself credit for trying to do the best I can, and I’m certainly not perfect.
These are the top things I learned about myself from 34 to 35.
- I care a little less about what other people think. I remember caring so much about being liked in the first 33 years of my life. Don’t give me wrong, I still care about what other people, but I would say 50% less than how much energy I used to put into that. It’s helped me get to where I am, but it ultimately won’t help me to get where I want to go.
- There is more give and take. In the past, I would definitely make more of an effort to stay in touch with people. Now I reach out to people I genuinely want to maintain a good relationship with.
- I have gratitude for the little things. This past month was brutal for me because I was recovering from COVID, and I usually I take my health for granted because I am a pretty physically active person but I realize just because I exercise a lot doesn’t mean I’m actually healthy.
- Landmark Worldwide’s Team Management and Leadership Program was a huge part of my year, and I had the most amazing deep conversations with others during it. I’ve never forget the lessons I’m learned from diving deeper into my unconscious bias and what triggers me.
- I took a leap of faith and left something that was near and dear to my heart for grow, learn, and prosper! Not everyone will always agree with your decisions, but only you know what’s best for you! Taking the time to trust your intuition is important because I know what fulfills me and I know that the long term is worth it even if it’s painful during any transitions.
- Surround yourself with Love and also thinking big. I went to Tony Robbins Life and Wealth Mastery in Fiji and learned so much about what’s possible when you plan strategically. It’s impossible to fail if you have a game plan that starts with a vision. I wrote a Goal Map of all of my goals for the next couple of years, and I have an executive coach who holds me accountable for these goals. The more I communicate my vision, the more likely I will accomplish it because humans are social creatures and what we put on paper becomes reality.
- I’m so proud of my sister getting married. She’s such a lovely human being, and her husband Edwin is also a beautiful soul. Time certainly flies by, and it’s interesting to see how we are all adults, and yet all of us have a child side as well.
- I’m finally tackling and being responsible for areas in my life. I’ve wanted to be fun, and because of that, I’ve certainly felt like I’m behind when it comes to finances. When we don’t compare ourselves to others, we give ourselves grace that it is okay to fail and make mistakes. Better start now than never.
- I’ve made a commitment to myself to write more often and create content as a way to be fully self-expressed. Every year I care a little bit less about criticism or if other people say something that rubs me the wrong way. It’s crazy to think how many other people’s opinions we seek approval from. It’s truly a losing battle.
- Appreciating good TV. So much of my life, I used to look down on watching TV instead of looking at it in a positive light. Surprisingly there are so many cool shows out there where I learn something. Even if I’m not learning something, its not healthy to beat myself up over it.
Davidson Hang is currently in Sales at Cheetah Digital which is a Marketing technology company located in NYC.
Davidson is an avid networker, personal growth- life and business coach.
He loves spreading the love and regularly helps people create and design the life they want for themselves.